Do you remember in your early relationship with your lovers/spouses, how your hearts raced when you suddenly heard their voices on the phone. How you had butterflies in your stomachs when you prepared to meet them?
Lust evolved to get you out looking (associated primarily with estrogen and androgens).
Attraction evolved to make you focus and expend your energy on one specific individual (associated with elation and craving for emotional union linked to likes of serotonin).
Attachment evolved so you would stay with that individual and raise offspring once mating was accomplished.
Well, something new to learn.
** Inspired by John J Ratey
5 comments:
Good explanation perhaps. I would like to add to it just one thing besides the three mentioned. It is learning, learning by living. You may learn something not taught anywhere and never even imagined. And finding a true love and proving to yourself that it is not just lust and a need/desire is in the mind that gives, shares and deserves the same in return. It is mutual and got to be mutual. Love is hence again a blessing from god, you have a mind to love yet are you blessed to find a mind that has love for you?
You are right. I always believed that you need some luck (or God's grace) to find the right person in your life. I don't understand why God does that :). May be if all couples are perfect match to each other, there is no fun in this world :) Ugadi pachadi laaga, vundaali kada life.
Priya garu, I think love is an accident. It is like rain. It never happens when we want it. Facing love is not great. But when it comes to anything in life, consistency becomes the hardest task. Once successful here, life is beautiful!
Actually Anand, I believe love is something that needs to develop over a period of time. It can't happen at first sight and it's not something that you feel within few meetings unlike how it's depicted in movies.
You should 'be' with a person and go through ups and downs of life and still 'be' with that person. Only then love is established in your relationship. It does not develop by going to movies, parks or chatting.
Now a days, marriages break for simple reasons and most of them are financial. People need to understand what is involved in being with someone for the rest of their lives. I believe any relationship - friendship, marriage etc - survive test of time only when something really 'tests' it.
Oh perfect! The analogy between love and an accident that I gave is valid only to realize the beginning of love and to sustain it. to live with it any longer in life, all that you said is perfectly needed. I agree with your idea totally. After all, experience makes all difference!
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