Wednesday, October 19, 2016

Why are people so judgmental? Why do people love to spread gossips?

Leaving the question of whether the ancient scriptures or puranas are real or if they even happened: it really surprises me when people make fun of them in a demeaning way. This is not about a particular religion. I myself know only little bit about our puranas and so I can speak only on this topic.

Somewhere on Facebook I read a post where one lady is talking about Krishna having so many girl friends and how Draupadi is his most loved girl friend. She was talking about how they both are having an affair - though the puranas say that he treats her as his sister and yes she is referred to as his 'sakhi' too. Now why this offends me is nothing related to religion. I have a huge problem when people try to establish an illicit relationship between 2 people so "easily" and now this becomes a hot discussion topic when they talk.

Yes, may be a man and a woman cannot be friends "if" they are attracted to each other - be it physical or emotional. But you can remain friends if you are not "attracted" in any way. I play table tennis with guys at work - am I attracted to them? No. I can go out of my way to help a girl or a guy. But when it is a guy - OMG - yes for sure she is having an affair with him. They don't care if the guy is younger or good for nothing or anything. Yes they have a point - in reality they don't matter if you really want to have an affair.  But what if you are really helping the person out of good heart? Nope. That doesn't matter. People find it more entertaining to believe they are having an affair and so they cook up stories.

One of my friends says she hates Bobby Flay because he left his wife as he is having an affair with someone. Yes - "hates". Now did you see him going out with this lady? Nope. You read it somewhere and you become the moral police. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are getting divorced and the first thing that comes out is that he is having an affair. Later some other reason is thrown at us.

Another friend says she hates Ranbir Kapoor as he left Deepika because he was having affair with Katrina. Hate? Seriously? Why are you so judgmental? Why can't there be some other reason for the breakup? May be they drifted apart and moved on sooner than her? Btw, I am not saying it is true or not. All I am saying is that, stop being so judgmental. Let people live their lives and stop being moral police when you have no clue about what happened between them. Just because one person talked about it and the other did not, what the first person said doesn't become the truth.

Why does it always have to an "affair"? Why do people love establishing such relationships between people. If 2 people are getting divorced, oh yes, one is having an affair for sure.

When 2 people are having differences - be it between spouses, siblings, parents, children etc etc - only those 2 people know what really happened. And they are never going to tell the truth and even if they think they are, it is only "their" perspective. So if you are their friend, listen, empathize. But never ever start bad mouthing the other person - a person whom you have no idea about, a person who is trying to live his/her life.

Let us mind our own business. Try to be empathetic. Spread love.