Are you having an affair?

A while ago, I wrote this article http://janya.wordpress.com/2008/06/15/can-girls-and-boys-be-friends/.

Am glad to know that I was spot on with my analysis. Read this:

http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articleoprah.aspx?cp-documentid=22451124&GT1=32023

If you are keeping your friendship a secret from your spouse - then IT IS an affair. So think about it before you justify with some reason or other.

Life is like a roller-coaster, never lose hope

I always believed 'Life is like a river'. You encounter some rocks, you pass them and you have these waves, but you never stop.

Well, I guess personal tragedies make you realize the importance of 'moving on' with your life. Karambir believes 'Life is like a roller-coaster, never lose hope'. Wanted to share this inspiring story.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Lifes-a-roller-coaster-never-lose-hope/articleshow/5224672.cms

Bhakta Prahlada

Just finished watching this wonderful Telugu movie from 1967 by AVM. It is amazing to see how Roja Ramani played the role of Prahlada at the age of just 5. Her lip sync to complex poems will make these new generation actresses to wonder their acting and dubbing skills.

Not to demean any child actor's skills, but it amazes me every single time how she portrayed this role and wonder if anyone else can come close to her. No fear when she puts a real snake around her neck or when elephants are running towards her. Those complex Sanskrit poems hard for most of us adults to pronounce - she makes it look so easy.

More over she is sooo cute that it only makes it more perfect to see her emotions. How could anyone not like her in this movie. You are just enthralled by her and just want to keep watching it.

A very confident 5 year old - someone I have never seen till now.

God always had better plans for me

"Why does this happen to me?" Have you ever thought that way? Well, some of you are really lucky to not have to ever think that way in your life. But some are not. If you are lucky, may be you don't have to read this.

I was just watching Hrithik Roshan's interview who overcame his problems of stuttering and scoliosis and went on to become a successful actor. His statement that I liked a lot - "I did not become an actor in spite of my problems. I became an actor because of my problems. I believe all the people who are going through a handicap or some problem - there is a reason for that. God is preparing them for something big.".

Well, I always believed this. Some people might not think it's fair to face the tough situations they faced in life while others are happily enjoying their lives with so called routine issues (well, what is routine and what is not, is another discussion as it depends on the perception). But then, as long as you can enjoy the ride and see what good came out of it to make you a better person to bring better things in your life, may be you will see that it's not bad after all.

Experience your life and enjoy it no matter what. Respect your past no matter what it is. It is yours after all. Remember, God always has better plans for you. If you don't believe in God, you can interpret anyway you wish, but enjoy your life the way it comes.

On the sidelines

My sister sent me this article of hers she penned. I loved it and wanted to share it with you.

http://www.hinduonnet.com/yw/2009/06/30/stories/2009063050390700.htm

Do you really love someone or is it just dependancy

"Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other." - Scott Peck

I was watching a movie yesterday - Dhoop. I will not get into the story as such, but one scene from the movie reminded me of so many similar ones from other movies and may be from real life (media) as well. 'Rohit' is engaged to 'Pihu' and he dies in a war. Her parents want her to get married to someone else. And she tells them she is Rohit's widow and will never get married again.

I don't understand what message they are trying to convey. Mourning is needed. But not at the cost of your own life. Does your life end because someone died? Didn't God give you a life believing you as an individual? Did (S)He have any intentions of seeing you grow as a dependant on someone else and end your life when theirs ends? Why don't people show how to "live" a life? 

I like what Scott Peck says in his 'The Road less travelled' to a woman who wants to die because her husband has died - "what you describe is parasitism, not love. When you require another individual for your survival, you are a parasite on that individual. There is no choice, no freedom in your realtionship. It is a matter of necessity than love. " 

Why do our movies highlight "sacrificing" one's life for someone else as something noble? Can't people take care of their own lives? Why don't we think of "educating" our own on how to lead their lives rather than making them our dependants? Yes, you need to support your family, but again, isn't it necessary to draw a line somewhere so as to make them independant? Seems like these movies show it as a pleasurable experience to sacrifice yourself for someone else.

Well, I am sure most of you may not agree with this, but I hope one day you realize the value in it and educate your kids the value of "life".

Have you been in love?

Do you remember in your early relationship with your lovers/spouses, how your hearts raced when you suddenly heard their voices on the phone. How you had butterflies in your stomachs when you prepared to meet them?

One of the most intriguing emotions in the spectrum of joy is Love. While we get more poetic about it, you can dissect it with science. There are 3 distinctly different physiological and emotional categories of love - lust, attraction and attachment - and biologically, they all relate to ancient drive to mate and evolved with different purpose.

Lust evolved to get you out looking (associated primarily with estrogen and androgens).

Attraction evolved to make you focus and expend your energy on one specific individual (associated with elation and craving for emotional union linked to likes of serotonin).

Attachment evolved so you would stay with that individual and raise offspring once mating was accomplished. 

Well, something new to learn.

** Courtesy: A user's guide to brain - John J Ratey